Daring To Stride: #ROW80 /#12WeekYear  MidWeek 6

Hi there, ROWers and friends! 

At my last update, I wrote about finding my pace.

That was a good and important step, but this week, I’ve gone beyond that – I’m daring to stride forward, to step beyond what we knew as a family of four, and what I knew as part of a married team.

Months ago, we were looking for a sectional large enough for us and two growing teens. We set a budget, but didn’t find anything we truly loved before Jim was too sick to look anymore.

Today, I raised the budget, checked in with the kids – and decided, on my own, to buy something I truly love. It might sound small, but it’s kind of a big deal in my mind. I’d been tied to the previous budget, and had to give myself permission to change it by about $200 – something that might have been difficult for Jim to do.

A small step – but a huge one, too.

Have you dared to stride, lately?

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

Relationships, Family, and Home:


Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Asked both kids to update what they’ve been doing and learning privately.
  • Progress: 10%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Weeks 612.

  • Driving Sunday – local errands. 1/4.
  • Discussed timing for his prelicensing course,
  • Progress: 25%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with both kids. Weeks 612.

  • Connection with both; chatting about matters casual and deep,
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 6-12.

  • Shopping; summer plans; finances; future purchases; hometending. 3/3 for this session.
  • Progress: 100%.


Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 612.

  • Not quite 10 minutes for Sunday; kids didn’t spend much time in common spaces. 2/3 for this session
  • Progress: 30%.

Gather and consider how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 6-12.

  • More discussion/brainstorming for short/mid/long term.
  • Progress: 100%



Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Currently working on rearranging the dining room so I can complete inventory process.
  • Progress: 77%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Began listing bills/due dates.
  • Progress: 82%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business. Due Week 6.

  • Progress: 30%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • Progress: 20%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Progress: 50%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 6-12.

  • Completed final revision for Story Starts 6-8/10.
  • Progress: 45%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 612.

  • All Spellfire’s Kiss completed chapters sent to author; through Chapter 8.
  • Began comments for Chapter 7, Scene 1.
  • Progress: 100%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 6-12.

  • Sprinted online with members of my local NNWM group; weather kept us home tonight.
  • Posted to #SOCS; here’s my entry.
  • Read and commented on all linked #ROW80 blogs; answered a few comments.
  • Progress: 100%.


Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 612.

  • Made a list of things I can tend to. Not exactly the intent of the goal – but theres no reason I shouldn’t help us out, right?
  • Progress: 50%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 6-12.

  • Happening both organically, and with intention.
  • Progress: 100%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 612.

  • Also giving this more thought. Working toward accepting a couple of lunch/coffee dates in the not-distant future. Taking care of me takes care of the kids, too.
  • Progress: 100%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 612.

  • I’ve got a couple of very organizationally oriented friends helping me out here and there – it’s good for now.
  • Progress: 100%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 6-12.

  • I still have ideas, and have accepted/arranged some tentative coffee/lunch dates – chances for me to get some adult time.
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:


Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Weeks 6-12.

  • Every night this session. Getting to the extremely emotional end of the series, which is stirring my desire to read/revise/create fan fiction.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arise. Weeks 6-12.

  • More Home and Garden TV; decluttering/organizing/hometending/for challenge otherwise; singing; and reading.
  • Progress: 100%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 612.

  • I made another, slightly smaller faux-rotisserie chicken. It was faster and easier this time.
  • Progress: 100%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 6-12.

  • Progress: 0%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 6-12.

  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 6-12.

  • Going with my natural rhythms accomplishes this very well.
  • Progress: 100%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 612.

  • Even when I feel guilty for dozing, napping, or sleeping in.
  • Progress: 100%


Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 612.

  • Either connecting with Lise, or meditation and journaling each morning this session.
  • Progress: 100%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 6-12.

  • Lots of renewal/planning/execution time.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 612.

  • More and more.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 6-12.

  • Productivity has decreased; but being-ness and connection are thriving, which is what we need right now.
  • Progress: 100%

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  1. Shifting focus… Jim is still there, a part of your decisions, but not as a voice of compromise as much as a voice of encouragement. So much blue green beauty…

    • You’ll have to come have a cup of tea with me and sit on the new sectional once it gets here. =)

      And you’re right. The budget changed – but so have our circumstances. One of the things we all agree on (the three of us who are left), is that we want to be able to have friends around more than we have – and that means having places for said friends to sit.

      I’m a bit surprised at the progress – but it feels so good, too! Like I’m starting to emerge from my chrysalis.

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