Blazing Our Trail:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear  End of Week 3

 Hello, ROWers and others!

I’m up late, despite needing to be up early, because I want to get this post and the last load of laundry done before I grab a couple of hours’ sleep.

By the time most of you read this, I’ll be on the road with my son, taking him for a visit with out-of-state friends he’s been waiting to see. Later in the week, my daughter also has a sleepover arranged with a local(ish) friend.

We’re finding bits and pieces of normal, and making a crazy-quilt of a trail out of them…it might seem chaotic, but there’s a pattern of sorts emerging…

Which reminds me…I need to activate the new EZ-Passes.

May your Sunday be a full-rich day.

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

 Relationships, Family, and Home:


Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • 6/4 – Winter storm/ roundabouts.
  • Progress: 100%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members. Weeks 3-12.

  • Checked in w/kids; connection;
  • Reached out toJim’s sisters.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 3-12.

  • Helped kids make plans and prepare to see far-flung friends, informally.
  • Met others needs/wants as possible; 6/5.
  • Progress: 100%.


Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 3-12.

  • 7/7. This is becoming natural for all of us.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 3-12.

  • This is an ongoing process, with more ideas than time to arrange/enact them. The kids are becoming good sounding boards.
  • Both kids have been quite helpful this week. I think it may have something to do with the fact that I’ve relaxed, and have given us all permission not to try to get everything done each day, but instead to do what feels comfortable and positive.
  • Progress: 100%



Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Still considering ways of moving sauces wholesale.
  • Progress: 50%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Received death certificate; began checking account changes; triaged business mail; gathered bills to list later.
  • Tried to initiate insurance policy search online, but company’s form is glitchy.
  • Progress: 70%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business. Due Week 6.

  • Skimmed tax info; located business insurance paperwork.
  • Progress: 25%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • Began gathering info I’ll need at tax time.
  • Progress: 15%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Gathered some bill info.
  • Changed YMCA membership from family to adult-plus-kids. Saves us about $200/year.
  • Progress: 40%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 3-12.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 3-12.


Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 3-12.

  • Still no official lists yet, but I’ve added gardening and massages to the list.
  • Progress: 25%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Happening organically as we adapt.
  • Progress: 45%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Again, it’s an organic process.
  • Progress: 35%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 3-12.

  • Progress: 45%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 3-12.

  • I’m getting much better at this!
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:


Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Due weeks 3-12.

  • Yes, every night. It’s my unofficial “escape” from the realities of transitioning.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Weeks 312.

  • Lots of Home and Garden TV, which I’m currently finding inspirational. Some magazines, which are balm for me in troubled times.
  • Progress: 100%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing cooked in the pot this week.
  • Shopped for ingredients for 3 recipes for the not-distant future, and I have plans to experiment with at least 5 dishes.
  • Progress: 30%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 3-12.

  • Saved one or two from my Facebook groups.
  • Bought local grocery’s quarterly recipe magazine.
  • Progress: 100%.

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing this week.
  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 3-12.

  • Regaining the essence of this – more like a day of focus on my personal space; then one on family things. It’s working well so far.
  • Progress: 85%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 3-12.

  • Yes – getting more in touch with myself and my needs.
  • Progress: 100%


Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 3-12.

  • Still not where I was, but easing closer to it.
  • Progress: 45%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 3-12.

  • Doing better here as I find my footing.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 3-12.

  • I continue to focus on this – I don’t seem to have the energy not to.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 3-12.

  • I’m enjoying time with both kids.
  • Progress: 100%

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  1. I just want to check in with you, to send positive thoughts your way, appreciation for all you are doing to celebrate and affirm life. I am simply in awe at your strength and courage in supporting your family and adhering to those goals that make all possible.

  2. The fact that you’re getting **anything** done after what you’ve been through is nothing short of amazing. I’ve been out of the blogosphere for most of last year, so this is the first I’ve seen. I read back over a few of your past posts, and I have to admit, I got choked up. Since I’ve never met you other than online, I couldn’t figure out why, until it dawned on me that it’s your writing – full of grace, wit and determination. And truly a way to honor and celebrate your husband’s life. All I can offer is hugs and good thoughts, so consider those heading your way – and keep on keeping on. you’re doing great.

  3. It’s clear you’ve been making a point to keep your might and body active as you move through the grieving process. Be safe on the road. I don’t know if you’re driving all the way down or not, but don’t let yourself get over-tired. And if you need a roadtrip partner, just to break some of the driving back down to pick Miah up, let me know.

  4. You are amazing. My heart goes out to you for all you and your family have been through and continue to go through, but I can’t help admire your strength and perseverance. You are setting goals, getting things done and making sure your children’s needs are well looked after. Hugs to you ❤

  5. Glad to hear that you are adapting and adjusting and accepting. Whittle away at the things you can when you can and let the rest slide for a while. My mom passed away 11 months ago and there are still a few things I have to take care of. And I don’t even want to think about the mess our taxes will be this year – I’m gonna just dump it on our accountant.

    Anyway, have a good week. Lean on the kids – they are always more resilient than we think they are. And have that list of things you need done all ready for when someone asks.

    Sending good vibes and sunshine.

  6. I just keep sending you a hug as we are too far away. Otherwise I would ask my husband to help with the gardening and I would come around and find something to help with too.

    • Hugs and warm thoughts are wonderful ways to help, Bee. As for the gardening to come, I plan on doing most of that myself, to get reconnected to the earth. The heavier stuff, I can ask my 6’3″ 16 year old to help with – he enjoys that kind of work, and has been wanting to improve the property, too.

      But advice, ideas, and inspirational photos of gardens would be greatly appreciated.

      • If you need any advice on gardening in general I can always ask the hubby and let you know as for the pictures: let me think and give me your email address 😊 mine’s bee.halt on(at) Sending you love and light!

  7. Looks like there’s a lot of blue up there. I know this adjustment can’t be easy, but you seem to be handling it as well as you can. (((HUGS)))

    • Thank you. It’s easier than I thought it would be, in some ways, and harder in others. But I/we are adjusting. It helps to get back into my routines, and to my goals, such as they are this round.

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