Impermanent Foundations:  ROW80/12 Week Year Week 10 Final

It’s Sunday again, and that means it’s time for a ROW80/12 Week Year Update. This one happens to be old – it’s been waiting over a week to be posted. Life has been….full.

Jim was in the hospital for nine days, and came home Wednesday. Thursday, we enrolled in hospice care, a cord of firewood was deposited in our driveway, and the well man came to begin repairs because Jeremiah and I broke a pipe while trying to insulate the well opening on Monday, resulting in most of the week without running water.

So an old update is the best I can do, at the moment…I may do something for Week 11 a bit later – or maybe not, since I did no new writing.


I’d love to be able to say that all is going smoothly in my world…but this isn’t a fictional post, and life isn’t always smooth. No foundation is permanent.

And this week, amid our holiday preparations, I’m learning how impermanent mine are.

Bloodwork shows that Jim’s reaction to chemo on Monday was more than an allergy – he suffered a small heart attack either during treatment, or later, in the emergency room. This is the successor to a silent attack he had a couple of years ago, and which we knew nothing about until he was first admitted to the hospital last month. This second attack was likely caused by the fact that the tumor in his liver is preventing its proper function, and causing his heart to work too hard trying to supply it with blood.

A liver stent was placed on Wednesday – but it’s not helping.

They’re considering a stent for his heart, as well, but that would mean more blood thinners in addition to those he’s on for the DVT in his right leg. He’s in the hospital for the weekend; more tests on Monday. Maybe an option to make life more comfortable…

The things that could kill him are mounting. So is the inevitability of impermanence. I’m not the type to hide from things…

And still, it’s Christmastime. I want this year to be special – a different kind of foundation upon which the children and I can build, later…but I’m not simply waiting and hoping for that. I’m creating those new foundations, bit by bit, and, because of that, some of my time was spent in things not on the goals list – making room for a Christmas tree (we don’t always have one, but Lise wanted one this year), and cleaning up the clutter that had gathered around the woodstove. On Saturday night, I was able to light a fire and cozify things with that warm glow.

I’d love to add some joyful holiday stories to these new foundations…do you have any to  you’d share with me?

My Revised ROW80 Round 4/ 12 Week Year End of Quarter 3 Goals

(updating at some later point; hopefully tonight, but maybe not).

 Relationships, Family, and Home:

Beta Reading:

One chapter of either Spellfire’s Kiss or Stained Blood each week, as possible: Weeks 10-12

  • Stained Blood: Highlighted Chapter Six for beta-ing.
  • Week 10 progress: about 10%


Complete three hometending rounds each in bedroom; porch; and study: Weeks 10-12.

  • Porch 3/3
  • Bedroom: 3/3
  • Study became the temporary catchall space for living room clutter; no progredd here.
  • Week 10 progress: about 66%

Complete one hometending round bathroom; family room; kitchen; and living room each week. Week 10-12.

  • 1/1: Kitchen; bathroom; family room.
  • 13/1:living room (and there may be more; I want to make this space festive and comforting as the center of our family life).
  • Week 10 goal: EXCEEDED!

Homeschool Administration:

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice four times weekly, circumstances dependent: Weeks 10-12.

  • Drove in fog, rain, and through snow. Also drove Jim’s Forester for the first time; this will eventually be his car. 4/4.
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED!


DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

Give 30 minutes/week to Modules One/Two: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete 30 minutes of current lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night”: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

New Writing:

Among the Firestars:

Complete Plotting elements: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Complete Rough draft: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Complete Lesson One of Holly Lisle’s Flash Fiction mini-course:  Week 10.

  • Section 3/4 in progress.
  • Week 10 progress: about 40%

Chef Bluebeard:

Research changing thrust/ownership of website: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Organize/inventory existing stock: Week 10.

  • Week 10 progress: about 15%

Create plan to liquidate/publicize liquidation: Weeks 10 -12.

  • Week 10 progress: about 10%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

The Big Scary Thing:

Spend the time needed to learn and adjust to the reality of Jim’s condition, and to deal with the circumstances as they evolve: Weeks 10-12.

  • Some reflection; lots of cleaning; some looking forward…
  • Read Chemotherapy and You (59 pages) and Eating Tips (68 pages), both books from the oncology center, so I can disseminate information for Jim, and be aware.
  • Visiting Friday.
  • Sorted paperwork; did more reading.
  • Adjusting to many changes.
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED.

Seek and accept help as needed/offered.  Also seek out those willing to help organize, because it’s hard for me to think about that while focusing on Jim, the children, and myself: Weeks 10-12.

  • Accepted an offer of dinner after consulting with the kids, and items of practical use for the family.
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED.

Fitness and Health:

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and give them the types of exercise, stretching, and challenge they need in trying times:  Weeks 10-12.

  • Doing better. Hometending in abundance through second half of week.
  • Week 10 progress: about 75%

Mindful Eating:

Eat three vegetable based meals/snacks; aim for Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Week 10-12.

  • After a rough start, I had sweet potato fries on Tuesday; vegetable lasagna on Wednesday; and broccoli pot pie on Thursday.
  • 3/3
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED.

Read instructions for Instant Pot: Week 10.

  • Read owner’s manualother associated literature.
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED.

Experiment with Instant Pot veggie-based meals: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Personal Expression:

Order another bra to duplicate favorite: Weeks 10- 12.

  • Setting this goal aside for the duration.
  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Purchase ear muffs: Week 10.

  • Week 10 and Year One goal: EXCEEDED.

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My Beloveds, a few years and many laughs ago.


  1. Isn’t it strange how life goes in cycles? I think that Christmastime is indicative of that. On or about the 21st is the longest night of the year, the deepest, darkest, coldest time. When all seems lost and dying. And indeed, how can we deny the truth of that? Because we live it every year, as do the trees and plants and animals around us. We think that with our electricity and artificial light that we can overcome natural rhythms, but they are still there, stronger than ever, perhaps, because we do not pay attention to them. Yet once that dark day has passed new life kindles deep in the earth, in the sleeping ground. The Christmas holiday was adopted from an older, pagan one and transformed. So the birth of the Christ child is an acknowledgement of the new life that comes after the dark, after the death of the year.

    Six years ago my brother in law was killed instantly in a head on collision. Watching his widow and four children go through the grieving process, while grieving myself (I loved him like a brother) has been heartbreaking and hard. At one point my nephew told my sister in law: “You never smile anymore.” And she didn’t, for a long time. She admitted that she wanted to crash her SUV into a brick wall with all 4 kids in it so they didn’t have to deal with the grief anymore. But she didn’t, of course. After about year 4 she finally turned a corner and began to accept her new life. The kids were much faster to adapt, as kids tend to be. They rode out the waves of a terrible storm and life is good again. I see parallels between their experiences and Christmas.

    You are a strong, kind, giving, loving woman, and though I do not know your husband and the children you have created together, I am sure that they are the same. I am praying for all goodness, ease, and harmony for your whole family. Merry Christmas.

  2. It’s good to see you are still managing somehow to keep a balance here – congrats and a big hug.
    Traditions are important in a family, as are building new foundations. My kids were 4 and 6 when we separated, but I still made sure they spent some Christmas time with me. That meant two Christmases for them – one before the 25th and then one on the ‘official’ day, but that also meant two sets of ‘yay, It’s Christmas’, with stockings to empty, presents to open, dinners to eat, and cuddles on the couch.
    It’s 30 years later now, and we still do it. They were all over yesterday, with their kids now, who all think two Christmases is just fine. 😉

  3. Well, I have a holiday story we laugh about now. I think it was the first Christmas my mom and stepdad were married. He was passing out gifts and tossed one of mine to me. It was a book(surprise! right?). Yeah, hit me right in the nose. And back then I was very susceptible to bloody noses. I’m sure you can see where this is going. It’s been probably almost 25 years, and there’s still usually at least one comment telling him not to toss any presents. It’s become a sort of family joke now.

    There may not have been any writing done, but you’re still making progress and doing what you can. (((HUGS)))

  4. I was thinking about trees… how you went to get a live one, the memories of your childhood, the sweet smell of pine and even the needles on the floor trailing like holiday confetti. Tonight Dan started putting the lights on the old tree my parents bought when I was a little girl, the one in all the pictures of Christmas in my own childhood, pictures with Nina, and Rascal and Herschel…

    And laughter and smiles… squeals of delight and my mom’s amazing German pancake with hot peaches. My happy holiday memories… I wish your newcoming ones wlll be as sweet and long-lasting.

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