Foundation in Flux:  ROW80/12 Week Year Week 10 Midweek

When I posted my Week 9 Final Update on Sunday, we were looking forward to Jim’s first session of chemotherapy on Monday, and hoping it would signal the beginning of a “honeymoon” where he might get to feeling better for a while. We were thinking of travel, a family portrait – and just enjoying.

Things didn’t quite work out that way.

Jim had allergic reactions to two of the drugs used in his regimen. That caused his blood pressure and heart rates to get scary-high, and he ended up admitted to the acute care ward. They’ve discovered that the cancer in his liver has compromised function; so a stent is being considered. They’ve also found some potential concerns with his heart.

When (if?) chemo resumes, they’ll be using a different regimen less likely to cause reactions.

According to Jim (I haven’t spoken with his doctors yet), they have more questions than answers right now.

I can relate.

 I feel as though I’m poised on the edge between two worlds and two lives…it’s hard to settle or plan too far in advance. For instance, today’s plan is to rest – I’ve been running places for the last week and a half. I’m writing, hometending, and hoping to help Lise pick her Christmas tree today, along with laundry and a bit of shopping.

But, if Jim needs me…well, I’ll be heading out to the hospital about an hour away.

Everything’s in flux, but sometimes life’s just like that, y’know?

Relationships, Family, and Home: 

Beta Reading:

One chapter of either Spellfire’s Kiss or Stained Blood each week, as possible: Weeks 10-12

  • Stained Blood: Highlighted Chapter Six for beta-ing.
  • Week 10 progress: about 10%


Complete three hometending rounds each in bedroom; porch; and study: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: about 8%

Complete one hometending round bathroom; family room; kitchen; and living room each week. Week 10-12.

  • 1/1: Kitchen; bathroom; living room.
  • 2/1: Family room.
  • Week 10 goal: EXCEEDED.

Homeschool Administration:

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice four times weekly, circumstances dependent: Weeks 10-12.

  • Jeremiah drove on the interstate. At night. In a steady, foggy rain. He was wary and nervous, and did a fine job, nonetheless. 1/4.
  • Week 10 progress: 25%


DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

Give 30 minutes/week to Modules One/Two: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete 30 minutes of current lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night”: Weeks 10-12.

New Writing:

Among the Firestars:

  • Complete Plotting elements: Weeks 10-12.
  • Complete Rough draft: Weeks 10-12.

Complete Lesson One of Holly Lisle’s Flash Fiction mini-course: Week 10.

  • Read all introductory materials; and to first stop point of Lesson One.
  • Printed all lesson and worksheet pages for later use.
  • Week 10 progress: about 15%

Chef Bluebeard:

Research changing thrust/ownership of website: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Organize/inventory existing stock: Week 10.

  • I combined this goal with cleaning the living room (where most of the stock was; began sorting full bottles from those waiting to be filled; moved to family room table to organize later.
  • Week 10 progress: about 15%

Create plan to liquidate/publicize liquidation: Weeks 10-12.

  • The seeds of a plan are rattling around in my brain. They aren’t a cohesive plan by any means, but they are slowly coalescing into the beginnings of one…
  • Which took its first shaky breaths on Tuesday night. We’ll see where it goes once I’ve finished the inventory.
  • Week 10 progress: about 10%

Health, Fitness, and Spirituality:

The Big Scary Thing:

Spend the time needed to learn and adjust to the reality of Jim’s condition, and to deal with the circumstances as they evolve: Weeks 10-12.

  • Way more of this than I wanted, actually. Between the medical front and the documentation front, my brain feels so full of information that it’s kind of leaking out around the edges into everything else.
  • Week 10 progress: about 75%

Seek and accept help as needed/offered.  Also seek out those willing to help organize, because it’s hard for me to think about that while focusing on Jim, the children, and myself: Weeks 10-12.

  • Yes, in several ways I’ll probably detail more in Year 2 (Round One 2018).
  • Week 10 progress: about 75%

Fitness and Health:

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and give them the types of exercise, stretching, and challenge they need in trying times:  Weeks 1012.

  • Doing the best I can, here. Monday was a lot of sitting with Jim while he was at chemo. Hometending on Sunday and Tuesday; and some much-needed rest.
  • Week 10 progress: about 25%

Mindful Eating:

Eat three vegetable based meals/snacks; aim for Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Week 10-12.

  • Eating in general has been dicey, this week, with time spent in hospitals.
  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Read instructions for Instant Pot: Week 10.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Experiment with Instant Pot veggie-based meals: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Personal Expression: 

Purchase ear muffs: Week 10.

  • Not ear muffs, exactly. But while Miah and I were at Target, I found a cute knit headband and a bonus neck warmer (like a cross between a turtleneck and a scarf). Bought both.
  • Week 10 and Year One goal: EXCEEDED.

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    • Me too! It’s really hard planning anything, and I pretty much feel like I should always be doing something I’m not, because there’s only one of me. There for Jim, there for the kids, tending the home, making Christmas happen, and trying to stay rested and ready to deal with any challenges, and also to have some time to do my own personal things…

      I’m trying to breathe and relax, but time has gotten weird and slippery, just lately…

  1. Dear Shan, I’m glad you have this space to talk about your feelings and actions. That story of your son driving in the fog. What courage. And you, keeping each day together and being present for DH. I hope you feel supported, even from virtual friends so far away, too far to share a cup of coffee, prepare one of those veggie meals, or hold your hand.

    • I DO feel supported, Beth. I’m more or less making this up as I go along, trying to make sure I get to all the things that have to be done, and tend to the souls of myself and my beloveds…but I think I’m falling off the list in a few ways, and that’s where the support of friends near and far really helps. Thank you. Beth.

    • I forgot to say that you’re very right about Miah’s confidence. Not only did he do that driving, yesterday he drove with his sister in the backseat for the first time, and with our Christmas tree lashed to the roof. He is very brave, and will almost certainly be more than ready when he is eligible for his driving test in the spring.

  2. Each day seems to be giving you more and more challenges to face… it’s like the Fates know exactly how strong and amazing you are and are trying to make it abundantly clear. I’ve always known this…. I wish you weren’t in a place where you needed to be WonderWoman to this degree.

    Take the moments of peace you can. Try to ride the rapids safely. We’re here with you if you need to toss a line or grab a hand. And if you don’t… we’ll still be here when the ride is over.

    • The wish and confidence are lovely. I don’t see it as a matter of gates – I see it as another part of life. We married not just for the good times, after all, but for every moment. I became a mother to nurture the children to adulthood, and to be there for them even after.

      It’s a time of huge transition and uncertainty, but I’m honored to be able to make it with the three people who are most beloved to me, and to have so many wonderful people near and far – including my soul-sister, who thinks I’m Wonder Woman! =D

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