Two Decades of Growth: August 23, 2017

Hey there!

Today is a very special day – because, today, August 23, 2017, is my twentieth wedding anniversary.

It’s been a busy few months, and there have been tensions and frictions. As our children move closer to adulthood and need us less, we’re re-negotiating the terms of our partnership. As those who’ve been reading here over the last months know, we’ve had over a year of financial uncertainty as we transition into entrepreneurship funded with dwindling family income.

Recently, we made the decision to cash in some modest investments, which is allowing us to go from one twenty-year-old car to two more reliable, newer models, and to make more investments in the business that will allow us to seek new markets and increase profitability.

With this week’s focus being decidedly and intentionally business-focused, there’s been much less to report in the way of writing progress through the first half of the week, but, now that the cars are purchased, this will shift some (still a busy Other Stuff week, though, so maybe not as much as my fantasies suggest, unless someone clones me or finds a way to time travel so I can get more done).

We’re investing in ourselves in a whole new way. It’s scary – but also very exciting. I’m sure there will be periodic updates as we move along this new and uncharted trajectory.

It’s been two decades, and we’re still learning and growing together. We’re also laughing and having fun.

I think that bodes well for the next score of years.

It’s hard to believe it’s been twenty years already – and, at the same time, it feels like we’ve been a team forever.

Is there anything in your life that feels this way to you?

  • Blogging: Revise/maintain regular blogging schedule for August and September. Outline/draft working schedule for October/November. Wednesday posts in progress; simmering those for weekend posts. Primary goal; some progress.

  • Other Platforms: Spend 3 hours/week with my Facebook Writer page, Instagram, Pinterest, and Patreon. Continue with Twitter #writingcrew and #AllStarTrek sprints/chats regularly. Dabble in other social media (LinkedIn, Medium, Quora, Wattpad, etc.) 1 hour/week. Made all chats thus far. Stretch goal; some progress.

  • Chef Bluebeard’s Flavor Enhancement Sauces: Assist my Accomplice with his business 11 hours each week. 11+/11 hours; Waterford Harbor Farmer’s Market and Mechanicville District Public Library Farmer’s Market; acquiring more reliable vehicles/equipment. Primary goal COMPLETED for this week, and I expect to do considerably more, too!

  • Selftending: Spend time with my beloveds, friends, and myself; get at least six hours of physical activity/week, catch up Baby Steps to 5K (currently 2 weeks/6 workouts behind; meditate and journal daily. Activity 1 hr, 40 min/6 hours; status quo on BSto5K, but hope to make better progress with cooler weather and better focus. Meditated/journaled every day. Solid progress; adapted goal.

  • Paying It Forward: Spend 3 hours/week on back business for local crit group; and 2 hours/week on beta projects Spellfire’s Kiss and Stained Blood. About 2.5 hours on crit group stuff. Hoping to get to betas by week’s end – finally! Modest progress.

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These two people were young and in love on August 23, 1997. They’re maybe not so young anymore, on August 23, 2017 – but they’re still in love – and, maybe more importantly, in like! =)


  1. Happy anniversary!! Our 11th is coming up next month.
    It’s been a busy week for you, I know. Hope it settles down for you so you can get to some of your stuff, too.

    • Thank you! We had a lovely day. As for the week – wow, it has been, and there’s more on tab – getting my car, taking Lise clothes shopping which will be an all-day event, most likely, since my girl cares so much more about clothes than I do, and she’s outgrown just about all her cooler-weather clothes, and then three days of markets and a write-in (haven’t been for 3 weeks!).

      Since we won’t know about my car till we get a call, I’m going to put at least half my focus on my own things today. Otherwise, I may end up a little resentful, and that’s not going to be good for anybody, or help me get to my stuff, either!

    • I totally forgot to say WOOT for your nearing 11th. That’s a fun one, and quite an accomplishment. So many marriages don’t last that long, so it symbolizes a lot of commitment and working together!

  2. Happy Anniversary! Love the way you weave home-tending, children growing and changing, and new ventures for you and Chef Bluebeard into all else that makes your life very full. August is a good month for anniversaries. We celebrated our 42nd anniversary on August 1st — easy to remember (8/1/75), and, like you, I’m amazed the time has passed so quickly. We’ve had amazing adventures together. He makes me laugh, calms me down, encourages my writing. May you enjoy those new cars in the coming week — and reach your goals!

    • I see all these things as interconnected. We couldn’t focus so much on the business if the kids weren’t fine with us being gone for good chunks of three days running, and it’s nice that they’re at least in theory willing to do a bit more in the way of hometending, because that was getting a little overwhelming on market days.

      Also, with them growing so fast (MIah is about to be 16, and take his permit test!), we can see the time when they won’t need active parenting a lot more clearly. They might still live with us – they’re welcome so long as we’re all happy with the arrangement – but they’ll be “free agents” so to speak…and we will have a lot more free time.

      So this is a way for us to prepare for that, so we don’t have so much of the “empty nest” feeling of being rudderless without kids to raise.

      After so long with iffy transportation, it is going to be lovely to have that worry lifted, especially since we live rurally.

      I’m still working out the best way to fit writing into this new reality. I will get there, though! =D

      • Isn’t every decade transformational? Those kids are so close to leaving home and beginning their lives anew. I’m lucky my daughter, SIL, and 2 darling grandkids live so close (just 10 minutes away). Cherish each moment — even when some WILL be challenging!

    • And a HUGE congratulations on 42 years. “He/she makes me laugh” seems to be a very common thing among the long-married. Honestly, it’s one of the big reasons I married Jim! =)

      • Thank you, Shanjeniah. I really am hoping for at least 10 more good years together. Ah, he’s up. Time to make breakfast or brunch or whatever he wants. 🙂

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