Growth, Transferred; July 12, 2017

I’m skipping my usual cheery greeting today.

It’s not that I’m not happy to see you – it’s more that tomorrow is the kind of day that jars with a flippant approach.

Tomorrow, our second child, Elijah James, would be 14 years old. Instead, he died at 12 days, in the hospital NICU where he spent his entire life.

Somewhere, his heart valves open and close in the chest of a teenaged girl we’ve never met. I hope that heart is full of far more joy than sorrow. I’m glad our son’s death meant a better life for her. 

At the same time – he was my baby boy, and I watched him die. Time smooths some of the edges, but it doesn’t take the pain away. Nothing can. Being a writer, sometimes I pour that pain into stories. I’m doing that this month, with my CampNaNoWriMo novel, Still Nameless.

The next days will be – emotional. I don’t know yet what direction the emotion will take, or exactly where this story is going, either. That’s yet to be discovered.

Both will be as they will be.



  • CampNoWriMo: Write 66,666 words (average 2,151/day) of Still Nameless (Kifo Island #8). 25,124/66,666 words. Primary goal; caught up, and moved most of a day’s count ahead.
  • Blogposts: Write new material at least 2 hours/week. Continue on with series in progress/JuNoWriMo words. 20 min/2 hours; worked on ROW80 post intros. Secondary goal.


  • Still Nameless (Kifo Island #8):Use a hybrid form of The Writer’s Coloring Book  and The Story Toolkit to finish plotting this novel. 21,064 plotting words; Antagonist #1 in progress; Step 5/22 (TST); just need to do coloring materials for TWCB. I’m debating setting this goal aside, until and unless I get stuck. Right now, I’m finding the writing is flowing without going further. Primary goal.


  • Sea Changes (Kifo Island #1): Organize the manuscript – one of the cats dumped it a week or two ago. Most of manuscript organized; missing some pages. I found some pages; not all of them, but close. Will reprint missing pages, and call it good. Stretch goal; a little progress.

Social Media:

  • Other Platforms: Post twice weekly to my Facebook Writer page; and once weekly to Instagram  and Pinterest. Complete Patreon profile and launch. Posted a photo of Chef Bluebeard at the farmer’s market to Instagram (see below). Secondary goal; some progress.

  • Continue in Twitter #writingcrew and #AllStarTrek sprints/chats regularly. Dabble in other social media (LinkedIn, Medium, Quora, Wattpad) if/as desired. Sprints and chats each day applicable; read a bit on Quora. Stretch goal; on target.


  • Assist my Accomplice with labeling/ branding/ platform/ marketing (if this is scary for me; it’s completely alien to him). New labels; new signage; posted to Facebook Business Page twice. Farmer’s market on Monday; we more than qudrupled our sales, garnered a lot of interest, and picked up some tips to look into over the coming week or two. Secondary goal; great progress.

Tending goals:

  • Hometending: Spend 30 minutes at least 5x/week in mindful cleaning and/or yardtending; draft kids’ 2017-2018 IHIPs (Individualized Home Instruction Plans); complete testing submission and reporting; deal with subscriptions and other business that tends to get pushed aside. Hometending 2/5. Jeremiah’s test scores are in; he easily surpassed the 33% minimum required scores. Will submit to school district later today. Miah chose to attend Unschoolers Rock the Campground with friends. I updated our info on the database to reflect this.

  • Selftending: Spend time with my beloveds, friends, and myself; get at least one hour of physical activity 5x/week, and two hours of strenuous activity weekly (including Baby Steps to 5K); meditate and journal 8x/week. Activity: 2/5; Strenuous: 1 /2 hours; Meditation/journaling 3/8.

  • Paying It Forward: Finish back business for local crit group; and one chapter/week for Spellfire’s Kiss and Stained Blood. Working through a questionnaire for local crit group member. Next chapter of Spellfire and a story chapter I promised Fallon before I began Stained have been highlighted for notation once questionnaire is complete.

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Chef Bluebeard and some of his flavor enhancement sauces, July 10, 2017.


  1. My heart aches for your Elijah. I know that’s the kind of pain that never entirely fades away. My prayers are with you.

    Looks like you’re doing well on your goals. Congrats!

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