Building An Independent Adult: March 8, 2017

Hey there!

Before we get into today’s update, I’d love to chat for a couple of minutes. First, I want to salute all women everywhere, and all men who treat us as the equals we are. Whether you’re striking, or going about your normal life, or something else, I’m thinking of you, and celebrating you, today.

I’m also celebrating my son, who told me on Monday that he hasn’t thought of himself as a kid for about a year now. We were out doing errands, and the conversation included his plans for the future, what he’s learning, music he enjoys, and more. Before we left the house, he helped me rescue a sparrow who had gotten trapped on our enclosed porch, and was too frightened to see the open door.

Then, today, when one of the kitchen sink drains was clogged, he decided to explore basic plumbing.

It’s amazing, seeing him taking on adult challenges, undaunted. He’s got one foot in the adult world, and one in childhood. He’s breathtaking. =D

It doesn’t seem so long ago – but long enough for him to be a head TALLER than me now!

If you’re a parent, have you ever found yourself quite suddenly looking at one of your children in an entirely new light?

If you aren’t a parent, have you had that kind of perception shift with a character?

Do you intend to do anything to observe International Women’s Day?


  • Foul Deeds Will Rise (Trueborn #2): Reread existing material; complete draft (10/50 scenes). Primary goal. Reread: Scene 15/40 complete and I’m sooo glad I’m taking a revision class, because this isn’t even close to a clean draft!

  • Fan Fiction (The IDIC Romance): Draft three chapters for Love and Loss, based upon the drabbles I wrote in February. Secondary goal. Shifted one scene, designated scenes for Chapter 1/3, and took notes for fleshing out the drabbles, and adding scenes and passages to draft to complete the chapter.



  • The IDIC Romance: Progress with revisions for On Any Tuesday Night (was First Contact, With Jazz), as I work through lessons 2- of Holly Lisle’s Revision Course. Continue revisions for A Backdrop of Stars  1-7. Primary goal. OATN Worksheets: p 9/82 (Scene 3) in progress. 1,103 words of Chapter Two rewrite drafted.

Social Media:

  • Blogging Features: Continue biweekly Mindful Monday and Skywatch Friday posts, as well as weekly #SoCS, #8sunday, WIPpet Wednesday, and Weekend Coffee share posts. Develop rough schedule to pre-produce April posts where possible; have all drafts in website interface or Scrivener by March 31. Tertiary goal. #Mindful (#BOAW2017) complete.


  • Homeschool Administration: Draft, proof, and submit second quarter reports, due March 15. Create Flickr portfolios for this school year. Primary goal. Reports proofed and submitted Sunday evening – that’s right! I submitted them over a week early, thanks to being sick and not really up to much beyond administrative things late last week.

  • Resets/reorganizations: study, family room, bedroom, living room, bathroom, and kitchen. Complete three 27 thing flings each room, each week. One 27 thing fling on porch and/or yard each week. 33 General Hometending rounds weekly. Secondary goal. Family; bedroom: 1/3; Porch: 1/1; general: 10/33. A combination of busy days, then a very tired Tuesday, have slowed me down a bit more than I wanted, here.
  • Photo digitalization: Scan 27 travel photos per week. Tertiary goal. Pulled this week’s photos.


  • My beloveds: One on one time with each, doing something of value to us both, each week. Primary goal. Conversation; videos; gaming; bird rescue; shopping; lunch; snuggling; television.

  • NNWM local group: Interact regularly, in person and online; participate actively in critique group. Tertiary goal. Write-in; online interaction; critique piece in progress: page 14/19.

  • Paying it Forward: Offer beta reading, reviews, and promotional posts for other writers. Side goal. Shared many of the other #BOAW posts.


  • Journal six mornings and four evenings each week. Meditate six mornings and three evenings weekly. Primary goal. Morning: 2/6 journal/ meditation. Evening: 0/4 journal; 0/3 meditation.

  • Get a cumulative total of at least 99 minutes moderate physical activity 5 days weekly; 111 minutes (1 hour, 51 minutes) twice weekly, and 9 hours of more strenuous activities (tai chi, swimming, hiking, cardio, weights, etc.). Secondary goal. 99 minutes: 3/5; 111 minutes: 1/2; Strenuous:0/9 hours.

Leaps of Faith:

  • Draft CV and revise. Pulled up document and reread; simmering.

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  1. It’s actually been a long time since I’ve viewed your son (not using names since I’m not sure his opinion on that sharing) as a “kid”. Haven’t yet seen him as an adult either (then again, it’s frequent that I don’t see myself as an adult, so…) but somewhere in between.. Closer to that sophomore in college feel–like “I’m not all newcomer, but I’m still getting the feel of things, and the world is still all new and shiny” personality.

    Personally, I think it’s a great perspective to have… but it could be because I’m biased

    • I tend to see him as Miah. =D Just that (and he’s OK with what I share; otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing it).

      Sometimes he’s very grown, other times just plain silly (but, let’s face it, he comes by that very honestly on both sides!) It’s just an endless revelation seeing the blending, and how I can see his mind reaching adult levels (and honestly more mature than some actual adults) in so many ways.

      I don’t see it at all as sophomore in college – because I just can’t see him in those terms. It’s more like he’s standing on the threshold of his adult life to come, putting a foot slowly forward to test it, then evaluating. He’s a born researcher and planner, and it’s so much fun watching him basically designing his own approach to adulthood on a conscious enough level that we’ve talked about it.

      Not sure I’m expressing it as well as I might, but it’s hard to express in words.

      • Fair enough. I see things in college terms probably because college was always a ‘thing’ (good or ill) in my life. Even now it’s hard to imagine life without college… But seeing him as Miah works too. 😊

    • Yup – I’ve got a good bead on exactly the projects that are feeding my goals (and, on that topic, I should have Tavin and Haiwee back to you before end of day tomorrow, and maybe a bit sooner than that).

  2. Wow. It sounds like you’ve done an amazing job raising a son who will know how to handle whatever life throws at him. As I’ve grown older, and especially as I’ve watched myself and my friends aging, I think having a sense that you can handle life’s challenges is the key to success. I’d also throw in there that you need an internal locus of control, which it sounds like you’re raising your children to have.

    Today was a quiet day–lots of walks in the park and binge-watching Jane the Virgin. Nothing major to celebrate International Women’s Day besides some quiet reflection.

    • Radical unschooling is primarily about two things: the relationships between family members, and that exact internal locus of control you mention. From the time he was 7, my son has been able to make nearly all the decisions about how to spend his time and energy. Today, he’s chosen to clean my car (and try unscuccessfully to fix my broken cup holder), made quesadillas, and is now learning to make burgers from his chef dad, because he said he wanted to learn how.

      It feels like he’s on his own personal mission to acquire the skills he’ll need to live independently, in a way that will make him feel happy and comfortable.

      I’ve seen a few episodes of Jane the Virgin – eventually I’ll watch them all…but, right now, I’m watching Hamilton’s America on PBS for the sixth, or maybe seventh, time. Still wonderful, and I’m still learning.

      I’ve often managed to do some decluttering, including solving a problem or two in my personal bedroom storage.

      And there has been writing, connection, and reflection.

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