Prosperity. Paused​?: December 14, 2016

Hey there!

So, have you ever had life do a quick-change on you at what might be the best and worst of times?

My Accomplice was fired from his job on Monday. He took this job several weeks ago, with high hopes. He was working a lot; the kitchen was clean and far better equipped than the one where he’d worked miracles for nine years. The owners were friendly, and, although the starting pay was lower than he’d hoped, he was promised a rapid promotion and raise once his probation was over.

The problems started to poke through the shiny exterior, but we’d gone through the bulk of our savings during his previous unemployment. He was determined to stay, and do his best, until he had a better opportunity.

But I can’t say I’m glad he’s not there anymore. Yes, it’s going to make finances very uncertain at a time of year when a little extra would be most welcome. But we’re lucky – we own our home, and our elderly vehicles, outright. Our kids are both old enough to understand financial reality, and it helps that we’ve been very open about our expenses since they were very small.

More than that. Going from what he thought would be a dream job filled with new learning and the chance to excel to something much less appealing was affecting his happiness and stress levels. Financial lean times are better than that, to me – to all of us. We like our family happy; we’re rich in so many ways that will never pad a bank account.

Some things mean more than money…

What means more than money to you?

Note: Goals I engaged with this session are included in the main post body. For complete lists, click the links below.


  • Kifo Island: Complete draft of The Far Shore (KIC#5); 24 Scenes, ~65,000 words. Primary goal. 558 new words; Scene 9/24 wrapping up. .29,951/ ~65,000 words.


  • The IDIC Romance: Finish revisionFirst Contact, With Jazz and get it in the hands of waiting betas. Revise Chapters 46 of A Backdrop of Stars and review 1-3. Primary goal; I FC, WJ”: Scene 4/16: Color-coding for first pass revision complete.

  • Philodosia”(Hamilton-inspired alternate history): Revise and print a nice copy of Scene One, “A Matter of Honor” for my daughter’s Christmas gift. Side goal. Watched Hamilton’s America again– hey, #itswritingresearch! Or obsession….or maybe both! =D

Social Media:

  • Make 3 visits to others participants in each hop/challenge I’ve joined. This will be a Thursday/Monday focus. Primary goal. Visited 3 SkyWatch Friday folks.

  • Interaction: Visit website, blog, ROW80, Albany NNWM, and Yakon Village FB pages;; Twitter; Instagram; and Pinterest weekly, each site. Secondary goal.


  • Homeschool Administration: Complete/revise/submit first quarter reports (due 12/15). Continue to file to Flickr portfolios. Gather materials for second quarter reports; facilitate further learning as needed/wanted. Primary goal. It took until Monday evening, but the reports are finished and submitted, so the time-sensitive portion of this goal has been completed ahead of deadline.

  • Complete resets/reorganizations: study, family room, and kitchen. Use the 27 Thing Fling for structure/5 each per week. Add in 25 cycles a week for random indoor/outdoor tidying/hometending. Secondary goal. Study: 5/5; Family: 5/5. Kitchen: 5/5. Indoor random; 8/25.

  • Personal Administration: Clean, organize, and back up all OneDrive Move to Yogical, Stuff to Look At, and The IDIC Romance files. Maintain email below 99 messages. Cull/organize Writing Stuff email folder. Tertiary goal. Wednesday/Saturday focus. Clared/deleted Yogical, which was a migrated file from my Accomplce’s od Toughbook. Did a basic sort of IDIC and Stuff. Got email to 112 messages. Good progress here!


  • My beloveds: One on one time with each, doing something of value to us both, each week. Continue planning/ attending outings and at-home activities (personal and family) as desired. Primary goal. Conversation; videos; offering support/solace to Accomplice after job loss.


  • Journal six times each week. Meditation six mornings, and three evenings. Primary goal. 2/6 morning; 1/3 evening.

  • Fitness: Get a cumulative total of at least 80 minutes moderate physical activity 5 days weekly, 90 minutes 4 days weekly. Secondary goal. 80 min: 2/5; 90 min: 2/4. Some strenuous firewood-bringing on Sunday.

  • Tai chi class, swimming, strength, and/or cardio training for a cumulative total of eight hours. Tertiary goal. Moving firewood: 1/8 hours.

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  1. I’m really sorry to hear about your husband getting fired! I’m still living off of my savings, but hoping to find real work either locally or in a place I relocate to. I may finally take my favorite aunt up on her repeated invitation to move to Sarasota, so I can be near her, live in a warm climate, and get more chances to spend time with my remaining set of grandparents while they’re still here.

    More than money, I value a good name, and a good legacy left behind for eternity. If I never have kids, at least I’ll have my good name, my writing, and the relationships I had with other people.

    • It was sad how quickly he started to see that things weren’t going to go as he was promised. He had more seniority than any other chef when he’d only been there 3 weeks! It seems that the business plan is to keep hiring and firing, hoping to get the business profitable, but there are bigger problems that aren’t being dealt with.

      I’ll be looking for something part time after the holidays, since that won’t affect unemployment if he needs it for a while. And we’ve got some money coming in – not enough to last indefinitely, but to keep us all for a few months if we’re frugal. By then, we’ll have other options.

      While I’d miss you if you moved so far, I understand, too.

      I love what you value, and I’m honored to be one of the other people you have a relationship with! =D

      Here’s hoping more prosperous times await us both!

      • I don’t know if you’ve heard of it, but there’s a book called America’s Cheapest Family (I think that’s the title). It shows how this family saved lots of money with all sorts of tricks. If you want, I can bring it to a write-in sometime.

        • I think I have heard of that book. I’d love to see it. I’m also planning to read the Shoah book you loaned me some time back. It will be one of my January goals, as soon as I finish listening to the Hamilton biography I’m in the middle of now.

  2. So sorry to hear about your hubby losing his job. I think the people who are able to overcome such obstacles and find themselves in an even better place than before are those with your outlook. I wish your husband the best of luck in finding a new position–and, no doubt, an even better one than before! I will send some positive vibes his way, if that’s okay.

    What means more to me than money? Well, I have consistently chosen art over money in my life. I earned an M.F.A. in writing, even though such degrees don’t tend to lead to lucrative positions. And I left a magazine job in order to write fiction full time. My magazine job came with a nice title and a steady paycheck, and there are definitely some financial goals hubby and I have had to hold off on since I don’t have any steady income at the moment. He works in IT, so we have a nice income stream from that, but having two incomes definitely moves things along faster. A naturally impatient person, I’ve had to learn to allow things to progress more slowly in order to reach my goal of living a creative life. But I think as I look back I’ll be glad I chose this path.

    • I grew up with a mother who tended to look on the darkest side, and a father who tended toward optimism often without realism. I try to see things in the best light, and look for possibilities to make them better. It keeps me from drowning in worry or dread (I have a tendency to do that if I don’t stay mindful).

      He may end up not with a position, but with a small business. We’re a few hundred dollars from him being able to market his hot sauces, which are filled not just with heat, but with flavor. We have a couple of influxes of cash coming up – we should be able to fund that, and get him up and running (I paid extra for business features on my website, so we can start him right there without spending any more money until next summer).

      That would be his passion, and, since he’s embraced me living mine, I want him to have it.

      Art over money makes me smile. I don’t know how any amount of money could put the glow in my heart that creating something masterful and beautiful does.

      Patience is coming more easily to me as I get older. More and more, I see that many of the best things (writing novels, revising, raising children, sustaining a happy marriage) are long-term, high-attention-investment ventures…but so worth it!

      I’m glad you chose this path, too! =D

      • If he starts to sell his hot sauces, let me know. I’d love to try some!

        Naturally, life is teaching me to be more patient. My writing career, even having a new puppy who requires endless amounts of patience, are teaching me that all of the best things take time. They need to be nurtured and tended like a garden–and like a garden, you don’t always see the results right away.

        • He will be. He’s building inventory now, and just needs to deal with labeling and liability insurance before he can launch. I bought a website that can handle commerce, so we can sell it online from there.

          I’ll be sure to let you know when we’re ready to start shipping!

          I love what you said about patience. It’s so true!

  3. Sorry to hear he lost the job, but glad to see you have a positive outlook. We’re into layoff season here(really hard to do road construction in the snow), so I know things are going to be tight until March/April. But, luckily we’re ahead right now, so I’m hoping we won’t get too far behind. If the snow continues, that will help since he makes extra money plowing.

    Looks like you still made some progress this week.

    • While I could do without oodles of snow, I hope you get enough to pad things out a bit.

      We’re going to be all right – we splurged a bit on Christmas, but will be much more frugal with the rest. It should last until at least the tax refund comes in, and I will be looking for something very part-time after the new year, because that won’t affect Jim’s unemployment, and I’ve been wanting to work a few hours a week for a long time. Lise wasn’t ready until recently, but now she’s happy about it.

  4. So sorry to hear about the partner’s job. Sounds like you are taking it in stride. There’s so many more important things in life.
    Right now my hubby’s job is the best paying with best benefits either one of us have had, but it is so stressful. If it wasn’t for the fact that he’s lost two jobs already since we’ve been married, I wish that he would get fired. I think the place is going to kill him before he can retire in another 2 years. Ok, he works at a prison, so it is realistic that it could kill him.
    Worse though then working with criminals, this job has changed him into thinking money is the most important thing. I don’t like that. I could walk away from it all – the jobs, the house, the decent vehicles.
    To answer your question, pretty much everything means more to me than money does, except maybe TV shows. I could happily live the rest of my days without watching another TV show!
    Take care and best wishes.

    • Jim and I have both had stressful jobs. If it was just us at home, that would be easier to deal with, but, with a teen and a preteen still at home, we really value a calmer work environment. The kids have all that rapid-fire growth and change to deal with; that’s enough stress in their lives.

      I will be thinking safe and relaxed thoughts for your husband, Chris.

      I love some television – particularly Star Trek and documentaries. PBS is my go-to station, pretty much always.

      But I’m with you. Money just doesn’t charm me. Never really did. I’d be very happy if it wasn’t such a huge part of our social structure. I’m happy to live a simple life, with simple comforts, and my tastes wouldn’t change much, even if we had wealth. I was born a country girl, and a country girl I’ll always be! =D

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