Resting With Purpose: August 21, 2016

We’re nearing the end of August. Tuesday is my nineteenth wedding anniversary. With budgetary concerns, we’re planning a very low-budget mutual treat – maybe a box of our favorite hazelnut chocolates.

What’s more important is reflecting on the years of our partnership, considering where we started, where we are, and where we’d like to go from here. That’s becoming more of a consideration as our children grow into and through their teen years. The time is getting closer when it will just be the two of us again, the way it was for the first four years of our union.

That will be a different life, and we both have ideas – separately, and together.

During this session, I spent a bit more time away from my writing. I needed a more restful spell after finishing up some major administrative projects earlier in the week. So I spent some time playing Cake Mania 3 and Spider Solitaire, finishing up the beta read I’ve been doing, and rereading my own fan fiction, as I shift into the earliest phases of planning for a more involved writing month in September. I took my daughter to a game night at a local homeschool community center we’re joining.

Sometimes, I need the rest, and the time to percolate. I do feel ideas starting to coalesce, bit by bit. But the well is refilling rather than fully replenished, so I may continue to spend more time on administrative details and preparations than on actual writing for another few days, or even the rest of the month.

I’ve learned that when I go with these flows, I’m ultimately more productive, and definitely happier and less stressed. More than that, I tend to details I usually set aside when I’m immersed in story worlds, so, in a sense, I’m laying the foundation and setting the stage…because, if there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that the words will come.

How about you?

Are you a consistent writer, or do you find there are times when you tend more to other things?

Do you feel guilty, or grateful, when that happens?


  • The IDIC Romance: Finish the Word-High July stories for “Mutually Acceptable”. 29/31 in progress. 421 words added. “Or the pause between the beats of your heart,” he gave her, as he reached down to feel its thrumming. Her breath caught, and her eyes glowed, and so did her soul.


  • The IDIC Romance: Reread existing stories at; create rough sketches for 30 new September stories/chapters/scenes. Started copying prompts onto a master list; 9/30 complete. Reread all 10 published stories. Additional goal: Read as-yet unpublished portions of Love and Loss”, “A Backdrop of Stars”, and all of “Mutually Acceptable Emotional Language”, which I intend to revise and publish throughout the fall.

Social Media:

  • Blog/Website Transition: Adapt and keep to regular posting schedule. Answer comments, and return visits at least twice weekly. Share all new posts to website; learn how to use galleries. Add relevant content to pages. Aim for soft reveal at end of September. Comments; 1/2.
  • ROW80: Keep sponsor duties up-to-date. Posted update, made sponsor visits to all.
  • Develop a rough, rational rhythm for visiting blogs and hop participants. Visited all ROW80 and 3 Wordless Wednesday posters overnight Wednesday; WIPpet Wednesday on Thursday.
  • Maintain email Inbox below 123 messages. 99.


  • Homeschool Administration: Complete all overdue and pending paperwork, testing, etc, and submit overdue materials. Draft, revise, and submit 2016-2017 IHIPs by August 5. Received approval for IHIPs – on time and as written! Hooray for a new superintendent! Started revising Lise’s overdue third quarter report.


  • My beloveds: One on one time with each, doing something of value to us both, each week. A Bird Story, Minecraft and art, resume and couples stuff; pizza party/game night at local homeschool community center.

  • Continue planning/ attending outings (personal and family) as desired. Attended a Friday evening teen/preteen game night/pizza party at a local homeschooling community Lise wanted to check out; we’ll be joining soon, and we both made some new friends.

  • NNWM local group: Interact regularly, in person and online; participate actively in critique group, reviewing, and beta reading.

  • Stained by Ashes: finish beta reading; 3 chapters per week until done. I finished this on Thursday.


  • Write in Abundance and #onegoodcup journals, and meditate for at least five minutes five times each week. Journals: 6/5; Meditation: 3/5.

  • Get a cumulative total of at least 45 minutes moderate physical activity 5 days weekly, 60 minutes thrice weekly, and more strenuous activities for at least an hour five times monthly. 5/5 moderate (45 minutes); 3/3 moderate (60 minutes); 1/5 strenuous.

Leaps of Faith:

  • Complete resets/reorganizations in study and family room. 27x3 Thing Fling in the study; 21 and 25 in the family room; both looking tidier.

  • Update my Accomplice’s cover letter and resume. Help him in his online job search. Online resume completed; next up, the print version and cover letter. Ordered resume print kit on Amazon.

  • New Goal: Submit a second ROW80 inspirational post by August 20, to give Kait a hand. Submitted Saturday evening.

Kait Nolan’s ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have a Life!

ROW Along or Cheer Us On!

Art by Lise Burton, Used with permission.


  1. Resting is definitely very important. I’m feeling my need for a rest at the moment. >.> That’s what I get for staying up late on Beloved’s work night. :-/

    Love that line added on the IDIC!

    Oh, a Backdrop of Stars is lovely! I bet your fanfic buddies will love it (assuming you mean to put it on the fanfic site).

    You visited ALL the ROWers and WIPpeteers!?! Ohmigolly! You must read really quickly.

    Rock on your exercise goal! You’ve gotten really consistent about meeting the moderate portion.

    Are you doing the FlyLady thing?

    Lise’s picture is very nice. 🙂

  2. My writing productivity definitely has its ups and downs, and I’m learning to just accept it and squash the guilt. Not worth pushing it only to be exhausted later! Besides, as you note, there is always other writing-related stuff needing to be done. Good luck with yours, and enjoy your break–and Happy Anniversary!

  3. Congratulations on your nineteen years. A box of chocolates and reflection sounds like a perfect anniversary celebration.

    My favorite instructor includes percolation as part of her formula for writing fiction. I write in fits and starts; unfortunately, the down time has less to do with percolation than with avoidance. I think the key to success is in remembering how much I enjoy writing rather than pretending I suffer over every word.

  4. Sometimes I take breaks and usually I feel guilty when I do. 😉 Writing every day is such a huge part of my life (10+ years) that it seems odd not to, even for a day!

    Happy anniversary!

    • I’ve had that feeling, too, Erin. I’m learning that, for me, it gets in the way of the writing.

      When I do take the occasional day off, it’s not to do nothing, it’s to refill the tanks and nourish my soul.

      After four months of intensive writing, I don’t feel guilty about a slower time – and since I have a good deal of administrative work to deal with at the moment, it might be for the best that my writing energy is low. I tend to push those more onerous tasks aside when the ideas are hot and plentiful, and taking care of these now means I’ll have more freedom when the words start flowing again…

      I hope you can learn to take those days off as needful things, and celebrate that you write nearly every day. I’ve come to believe that guilt about things like that tends to sap energy – and writing needs energy! =)

      • You know, you’ve made some valid points. And I will try that in the future for sure, reframing it as refilling the well. I think it comes from an obsessive need to be productive with writing — but if I burn myself out, I’m not doing myself any favors. And that has happened before. So, I will try to keep it in mind. Writing = good, burn out = bad. 😉 Refill the well!

        • I almost always prefer a guilt-free approach. It works best for me – I haven’t had burn-out since I started to honor my need to focus elsewhere at times, and, ultimately, I’ve done more writing in the last 7 years than all of the 4o before that – by a huge margin. So I’d say it works for me.

          Enjoy the well-filling, and the writing, each in their time. =D

    • I’m definitely a “cycles” writer, too. I tend to go with the phases of the moon (except that, right now, the four months of intensive writing have led to a longer lull, and a focus on admin stuff.)

      I just wrote a sponsor post about my experiences with revision. Right now, I’m doing more revision-oriented than writing-oriented things, and, while I can’t say I’m anything approaching fast, I am getting more confident and comfortable in the process. To paraphrase Hamilton, “Writing is easy; revision is harder.”

      But I’m learning.

      Thank you for the anniversary wishes.

  5. Happy anniversary and I love the picture.

    Since I had two kids from my first marriage, my current hubby and I didn’t have any time alone when we first got married. Now that the kids are grown and on their own, we are working so many hours at our day jobs that we still have to schedule time alone together. We continue to work on that. And with that in mind, I definitely am not a consistent writer, waxing and waning due to my husband’s work schedule, allowing me time to spend with him when he is off. Did I ever mention he works at a prison, so you can imagine the stress and the importance of relaxing days off.

  6. Sounds like things are going well, even if you haven’t added a lot of words. My word counts are lower this month as I’ve been focused mostly on editing.
    I love the snippet! And the drawing. so cute

    • Thanks, Fallon. I think I needed a month of not so much writing after the next four, and before the next three.

      I actually have added 494 words to :Mutually Acceptable” since I posted the update. I’m going to do maybe one more session before I sleep, because when I get up, it will be revisions, resume, and reports until I finish with at least one of those.

      I’m okay with the writing being at the edge of things….for now. It never stays there long.

      I’m glad you like the snippet, and I’ll pass along that you like the drawing. She’s been doing a lot of those, turning her Littlest Pet Shop characters into critter people. The stories that go with the pictures are pretty cool, too. =)

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