Proof of Parenthood: June 15, 2016

Hey there, ROWers and others!

I’ve simplified my June goals (well, simplified for my wide-angle norm, anyway.)

I now post only goals I’ve interacted with in some way. That leaves space to chat with you, and I get a streamlined overview of where my energy, time, and focus were spent.

Ever feel like you’re going in seven different directions, all at once?

I launched a busy Mom week yesterday with taking my ever-growing fourteen year old son shopping for new clothes. He dislikes clothes and shoe shopping exactly as much as his sister loves it. He’s also not fond of having his picture all over the internet, so you don’t see him here much these days. But spending time with just him is pretty cool. He’s half a head taller than me, with nearly three months to go before his next birthday. I can’t escape the fact that he’s very nearly grown, and my time with him as a minor is slipping away every day.

He’s quite a guy, this Gigantiboy of mine. =)

Earlier today, I took my daughter to a sleepover with a local friend. She’ll be away till Friday morning. Tomorrow, I’ll have a longer drive, meeting out-of-state friends halfway, so that my boy can celebrate a guys-only weekend with another friend. He’ll be gone till Monday.

Friday I go pick up the girl, and Sunday she’s attending my write-in with me. Monday I go back to get the boy.

Thursday night, my Accomplice and I will have the house to ourselves (well, along with an elderly dog, an ancient guinea pig, a mature cat, and a kitten.) That hasn’t happened since …well, since we didn’t HAVE children!

Somewhere in all of that, I want to finish drafting A Rising Tide – I’m on the last scene! – and begin scene plotting The Far Shore (getting close with the character work, now.) Oh, and write some fan fiction, and and and….

Mostly, though, I might be contemplating what seems to be a new, outward, independent phase of our parenting lives…

And what are your plans for this weekend?



  • JuNoWriMo: Plan/plot The Far Shore: 24 scenes, using The Writer’s Coloring Book. Theme page complete. All time and color mapping worksheets completed. Ubunta’s story world mandala complete; 1/3 Quincette’s in progress; 2/3. This is the last step before plotting commences. This is will be a major focus until complete – projected by Sunday.


  • Sea Changes (Kifo Island Chronicles #1): Continue readthrough aloud (record and listen).Rough revisions through Scene 6/24, and submit to crit group. Finished revision of Scene 2/24; submitted to group. Read Scene 3 silently, then aloud into phone. Separated and clipped hard copy of Scene 4 for next week.

  • Revise/organize Love and Loss and A Backdrop of Stars. Complete a revision pass “First Contact, With Jazz”, using crit group notes; submit for beta reading. LAL: Chapter 3/20 complete (explicit); A Sweet Wild Dream.” ABOS:. “FCWJ”: Organizing a master file with original and all crit group revisions for 4/16 scenes. I’ve been working on this in quarters; I’ll continue that way, then make a final pass of the entire document before passing on to the three betas I have for it.

Blogging/Social Media:

  • Answer blog comments and make visits, at least four times weekly. Sunday, Monday, Tuesday; 3/4.

  • Interact on Twitter at least once a day, three times each week. If you want to chat with me there; I’m @shanjeniah. 3/3; sprint, sprint hosting on #JuNoWriMo, like, converse, reply, share.

  • ROW80: Keep visits and updates current.

  • Maintain email at below 123 messages; making good use of folders.

  • Answer story comments at least twice weekly. 0 /2. Checked. No messages this week, thus far.

  • ROW80: Draft, polish, and submit Round Three Sponsor Post. Drafting/resource gathering; page 2/3. Rough revisions.rewriting as I go.


  • Continue decluttering/beautification projects; in home and/or yard, five days weekly. Continue making improvements to our home and our quality of life; remind/support the kids in the pitching-in they’ve agreed to do on my Accomplice’s days off. 2/5; Sunday.


  • Continue planning/ attending outings (personal and family) as desired. Shopping for son’s first solo weekend with out of state friends. Busy travel week starts today!

  • NNWM local group: Attend write-ins regularly and check in on the Facebook group as inspired. Peeked at the group twice.
  • My beloveds: One on one time with each, doing something of value to us both, each week. Canoodling; shopping; Hamilton.
  • Stained by Ashes: Critique at least one chapter each week; through Chapter Eight. Catching up; Chapter Five in progress; 23/253 pages complete.


  • Write in Abundance, Intentions, and #onegoodcup journals seven times each week. Meditate ten times weekly. Progress weekly with FutureLearn Mindfulness class. Journaling: 3/7; Meditation: 5/10.

  • Moderate activity: At least 45 minutes, 5 times a week. Use my timer. 1/5; shopping; walking.

Leaps of Faith:

  • Oregon bound Burtons: Clean one common and one personal shelf, drawer, bin, or flat surface each week. Shelves begun in both areas.

Kait Nolan’s  ROW80  –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have a Life!

See other participants’ goals updates here!



    • Yup. And I’m home all alone for the next few hours. My Accomplice did some cleaning, and set up the coffeepot, so I’m doing a bit of commenting, then diving into fanfic, planning, and maybe a little nap, since I spent most of the wee hours walking and talking with my son, who is an amazing person when he emerges from his room – he’s part nearly adult, and part great big puppy with huge feet and ears who can’t quite get out of his own goofy way. ❤

      I was going to do some writing stuff, but I don't regret the time with Miah. That's a different and more important thing, in a lot of ways.

  1. Subtle shifts in life and flows… sounds like you’ll have story fodder, creative time, even more “you time” (because I imagine the Accomplice is still working this week). Something different and good (a moment of reflective connection) and bad (long drive, fewer random talks at odd hours)… mostly different.

    Awesome progress though as always. It flows well.

    • You know I don’t mind long drives. Got caught in rush hour on the Northway, so I gave myself a concert. =)

      And yes, Jim is working now. He cleaned some and set up the coffeepot and made our bed. He’s not only my Accomplice, he’s sweet and handy, too.

      I pick Lise up tomorrow noonish. She’ll be coming to the write-in, in case Marcus would like friend time.

      Miah and I talked and took a dawn walk and listened to Hamilton in the car. It’s odd not having them here, but I know they’re doing what they want to be doing, and growing up. It’s like a bit of a trial for things to come, a few years down the road.

      It’s been a good week, and now A Rising Tide is drafted at last. =)

      • Marcus still has school on Monday… and because of the later schedule (Father’s Day–the Denny’s asked us to come a bit later for our seats and I need to be set up and working by 7 for my JuNoWriMo schedule) we won’t be at Denny’s this Sunday. Future weeks though! The evil is over with on Wednesday… (we do have a reason for holding out–and the Boodle is on board with it too)

        Sounds like Dan… he’s definitely my better half. This morning he removed a dissected mouse (the cats were so very proud) from the livingroom and then vacuumed. And… then of course there is how he was about Mr. Kitty… I knew way back when we were living at Sherman St and we had Bibel and Snert that he was the right person for me. (There’s a story there, a very precious one to me)

        Sounds like it’s been a good week for you. <>

        • I understand about the schedule. We’re going to swim before the write-in this week, so we might get there early and have to move, but that’s OK.

          Have a good time at home. Spouses who clean up cat gifts are the best, aren’t they?

          It’s been a week of lots of things, and, while I treasure that, it’ll be nice when we get to the end of it and things settle down….

  2. You once again have a crazy busy week, but sounds like you will at least get some alone time. I thought that once my kids were out of the house, things would be quiet around here. Overall I guess it is, but when the kids do come home, the chaos makes up for those quiet weeks, but all in a good way.

    • That’s what I’m hoping for, Chris. In some ways, I can’t imagine life without them here. Yet I love seeing them growing up and becoming the adults they’ll be a little at a time.

      As long as I remember who’s where, and when to pick them both up, all will be well. =D

  3. Wow. It sounds like you’re practicing empty nesting almost! *meep* I hope the time alone with your Accomplice will be especially pleasant to make up for the lack of kiddo presence. I’m still in the stage where not having kids around is almost a foreign concept. Yay for new stages! Exciting even when a little sniffly and intimidating.

    And you may be posting just the goals you’ve worked on, but your list is still impressive!!!

    • Funny thing. Miah and I were up all night, chatting and going for a walk. We went past Lise’s bedroom, and I was being extra quiet so I didn’t wake her!

      Oh, right, not home.

      I’ve never had a child in another state before…but I think he’s going to have all kinds of fun.

      It’s absolutely a foreign concept, but I get a feeling that it’s not the last time. I mean, fifteen is coming, and he’s quite an independent and level-headed person, that Gigantiboy of mine!

      I’ll have to wait a few more hours for my Accomplice. He’s still at work. But I’ve got a somewhat tidy house, and fresh coffee to keep my company.

      I’m pretty pleased with what I’m getting wrapped up. I hope to have a few more things started by Sunday, but my focus will be on planning and plotting The Far Shore (KIC #5) and some fanfic, because, well, Trip and T’Pol!

      • We’ve done the separated by half a continent thing with our two older girls. My dad & stepmom took them on a tour of California about 4 years ago. This year, they’re taking them to Boston. It makes me feel very squiggly, but knowing it’s the two of them together helps. I know Reader will watch out for Artist and vice versa. I hope Miah has a blast on his big adventure!

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